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by Louis McBurney, M.D., Marble Retreat Founder
"What Problem?"
When Marble Retreat was founded 25 years ago to provide brief,
intensive counseling for clergy in crisis, it was a pioneering
approach to what many believed was a non-problem.
"Clergy are not supposed to have problems," was
the popular belief. "Or if they did, they could just
pray about them and they would go away."
I was convinced that they wouldn't just
go away. After a quarter of a century of service to more
than 2,500 clients, I am convinced the problems are multiplying.
In fact, today's clergy are forced to fight their own individual
traumas against crushing odds.
The standard stressors are
still there: unrealistic expectations
impossible time demands
loss of privacy
role confusion
power struggles
financial crunches
family conflicts
sexual temptations. But the
new ones are overwhelming: fragmenting cultural foundations
sudden shifts in values
secularization and alienation
of the church
job insecurity
and readily accessible
Internet pornography.
The clergy fight complex social needs
while the fabric of family, community and church unravels
around them. These first-line caregivers, who are expected
to have all the answers, are forced to cope somehow, having
had fewer models and flimsier foundations than any prior
generation.
The High Cost of Not Caring
To persist in expecting clergy to
be "super saints" with no problems is to invite
disaster:
- It increases the likelihood that a minister and his or
her family will brown out or crash and burn.
- That means that the church will experience months, even
years, of chaos and high cost as they attempt to heal and
find new leadership that will restore credibility.
- It means that the faith of generation of young people
will be at least shaken and at worst destroyed.
- And it usually weakens the credibility of the entire Christian
family within the community.
There is Good News
The good news is that there is a growing awareness among
denominational leaders of the need for clergy support. And
there is an attitude shift on the part of informed lay leaders
about the importance of encouraging, even providing for, clergy
care.
There has been an explosion of clergy care programs ranging
from quiet getaways to long-term counseling resources (see
our links page).
As a pioneer in clergy care, Marble Retreat applauds these
varied options. We have encouraged this growth and assisted
many of them with materials and mentoring. And we often refer
inquirers to other caregivers. But by conviction and call,
we remain true to our original purpose.
What is "The Marble Retreat
Distinctive?"
The Marble Retreat distinctive is that it provides brief
intensive psychotherapy with spousal participation, and does
so in a secluded, safe, mountain retreat far away from the
stresses and strains of the clergy's glass-house pressure
cooker existence.
It works. Successful experience has shown that it is easier
for a minister to unmask, unload, and refocus in such a peaceful
mountain setting.
Marble Retreat operates year round, offering
12-day sessions in each of the beautiful seasons Colorado
provides.
Small groups of no more than eight persons
live together in a cozy mountain lodge for two weeks. Crackling
fireplaces, a relaxing Jacuzzi, a recreation room and exercise
equipment, mountain bikes and fantastic hiking trails all
combine to create a place where individuals can relax and
safely focus on crucial life issues.
Marble Retreat hosts, Henry and Eva Villarreal
extend a warm welcome and prepare nutritious gourmet meals.
Directors, Patti and Steve Cappa provide administrative and
clinical guidance as well as conducting the majority of the
groups. As a board-certified psychiatrist and now a Marble
Retreat Fellow, Louis and Melissa are regularly involved
with some therapy sessions and from time to time other licensed
therapists step in to lead groups.
The two-week sessions include 30 hours of group counseling
and four hours of individual therapy allowing undistracted
concentration on the problems at hand.
What Alumni Say About Marble Retreat
Marble Retreat guarantees strict confidentiality. But many
of the 2,500 alumni who have been successfully treated at
Marble Retreat volunteer to connect, anonymously and confidentially,
with a candidate who wants to ask questions before coming.
"The combination of the therapy, length of time, awesome
scenery, relaxed atmosphere, interacting with others in the
ministry, hosts, and healthy food were great."
"Knowing that God orchestrated
every last detail, PERFECT is the only word to describe
the Marble Retreat program."
"Thanks be to God that Louis
and Melissa have been faithful to God's calling and Marble
Retreat continues (by God's grace) to be a reality. Our
lives have been forever changed and we are grateful."
"The combination of Louis and
Melissa's God-given insights and the precious 'safe place'
that was created by freely being able to share our real
lives with other ministry couples in crisis during the
group sessions made my experience at Marble Retreat utterly
unforgettable! At Marble Retreat God opened the gates to
a pathway of true healing."
[please click
here for more encouraging testimony from our alumni]
Your Marble Retreat Invitation
Marble Retreat is not for everybody.
But for those who really need it, it could well be the
only hope. If we are not your answer, we can suggest other
resources appropriate to your individual need. There is
no reason to try to "tough
it out" alone, when help is near.
To discuss your situation in confidence please call our toll-free
number now (1-888-216-2725). Or explore this website for more
information.
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